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Tuesday, September 30, 2008

A Sudden Anger

I feel reluctant to write what I suppose to write because some “people” might feel uneasy but it is my obligation to say it here. I am ready to get blasted by those who think that I am totally wrong. Well, whatsoever, it is for our betterment.

Yesterday, on the way back home, my wife asked me to stop by Siburan bazaar to buy liquid detergent. It was rainy afternoon and I parked my ugly bike at a shaded parking lot. On my left side there was a nice car.

As I turn off the engine, suddenly a well looked man call me with aloud and angry voice. “Boss. Macam mana saya mau keluar! (Sir, how do I get out?)” said the man in anger. “Apa? Pak cik mau keluar?. Keluar ke mana? Uncle boleh undur dan keluarlah. (What? Uncle want to get out to where? Maybe you can reverse and exit from this parking lot.” I replied. His face turned to different impression and said “Saya baru sampai dan saya mau keluar. Kamu halang pintu saya, macam mana saya mau keluar loh. (I have just arrive and want to get out from this car. If you block my door how to get out!)”. I replied, “I am sorry uncle” and parked my bike away from his car.

Then, my wife goes to H&L supermarket and I wait for her. The man gets out from his car. Based from his appearance he must be a professional as he drives a nice car and wearing neck tie. He looked at me with a different way and I ignored him. As I waited for my wife, I heard he speaks with an aunty about what was happening over and over. He blamed me blindly and looks down at me as a rider in the rain. At first I ignore his conversation with the aunty but as he keeps on repeating the bad word in Bidayuh language, I interrupted him and said in Bidayuh language “Uncle, aku muh mite maaf so kaam. Duh sah dinge nyabut har anu. Manguh aku dingah.( Uncle, I have ask for apologize from you and I think that we do not have to talk about it over and over again. I feel shame.” His impression changed as I talk to him in Bidayuh language. I asked him to keep no heart feeling on me before we leave the bazaar.

Some of the people I met will assume that I am a Chinese as I am a little bit look like a Chinese man. I mean my eyes and face are look alike. That was why that uncle spoke “bahasa pasar” with me. What made me upset was that how can a professional Bidayuh
(He is a bank officer) burned his anger easily where there are many polite ways to converse with others? He can say “excuse me” in stead of raising his voice to a small biker like me. I realized that I was wrong and asked for apologize but it was seems to be not working at all. Maybe if I drive a car as he has, he will be more polite to me. I feel different yesterday afternoon but I have to make it as a funny tragedy.

Bidayuhs are recognized by their humbleness and courtesy. That are the trade mark and they are thought in every households and schools. Somehow, I could not understand why there are still arrogant people of my clan which is not inline to our culture value and personality. We are thought to respect and honor each other to live in harmony and unity. Maybe if I dressed like he dressed and drive a car like what he drives, I will not get punt by the uncle but getting apologize from him or at least a polite words and respect as a same tribe like him.

We are loosing our precious value that was planted by our forefather and that made us disunite and hate our own clan. I miss the time when elders teach us to behave and mould our personality in order to behave in a good manner. I do not blame the uncle wholly as he might not receive the same portion of personality lesson as my father has given to me. Maybe I look younger to him and deserve no respect and furthermore, I am just a small ugly bike rider.

I believe that we practice what is good to conserve our good personality. Everybody is trying to project themselves in the society and I believe that those who are courteous are well known but those who are rude and arrogant will lost his friends. Let live in a harmony environment where “give and take” is well practice and appreciated.

Budi Bahasa Budaya Kita.

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

"Bidayuhs are recognized b their humbleness and courtesy."

Exactly pointed out.

You know what Tbs, that's the holy grail of Bidayuh. Either you use it or abuse it. Sadly both ended for Taib's benefits, not for Bidayuhs benefits. You get what I mean?

Because Bidayuhs are timid and very good in following orders that made them the perfect servant for Taib. By utilising the divide-and-rule tactics, Taib will forever rule over Dayaks and whoever Taib successors next will able to do the same over Dayaks, Bidayuhs alike. Taib will reward all, I repeat all, the Dayaks politicians with big money projects perks dopes like that, so much that it's just worth to worship Taib forever. You'll be blinded from right or wrong, from truth and fairy tales. For any Dayaks politicans, this is the chance of a lifetime to get rich for 7 generations. You'll be stupid to turn down the money as it seems to be nowdays. Why care about NCR lands when it can be 'arranged' to auctioned off to Foochow developer for commercial/housing projects in the pretext of developement, with every party will get the share and finally the shophouses opens the business for coffe shop employing Dayaks as waitres/waiter for some joke salary?

It doesn't matter for you and me. Just be obedient and hope for the best. After all, that's all the Bidayuhs can do. Dasak, toru, dunyah lawan printah, sukup man brang andu. Maybe Dayaks are bunch of wild apes that need a master to cope them in order. Maybe without Taib, God knows how chaotic jungle for Sarawak would be with Dayaks leaders killing each other for some dope shit. But once a leader comes(must be in some white figure) then suddenly all those Dayaks apes are scared and start follwing order like a band of army. Who gets what to end chopped others head off decided by the white figure. James Brooke used it successfully before and Taib use it exactly the same carbon copy of James Brooke tactics. It's not that hard to control a bunch of apes apparently, till to this very day.

Those are some stuffs of faggots.

Anonymous said...

Its not about being humble as a trademark for the bidayuh. It a disease/cancer of society.

Big car but never a big heart for the Bidayuh. The Dayak are worst when it comes to personal achievement. Tend to become super arrogant, as if they paid all the tax and contribute to this land.

Take it easy TBS. and never compare your ugly bike with his car. Those are just material gain.

Regards

Anonymous said...

Kudos to you for speaking up against another Bidayuh brother, unfortunately. I hope that experience lingers in his mind and be a lesson for him. We are a small community, you might bump into him again or know someone in common. Let's see how he handles this. Till then,I applaud you for your strong convictions in all issues affecting our Bidayuh community. God bless you.

Roy said...

Slack orang ya.
Oh well....
Some people tend to forget their roots once they've grown into taller trees in this jungle. Sad but true.

Anonymous said...

That is a good lesson to be learnt. However, I found that you have a split identity. You don't practice what you preach actually. Read all your postings and I have not see you saw or pay much respect to the others. That is what I have been telling you, if you point one finger at others, there are four of your fingers pointing back at you. That is what is actually happening. Good that you have learnt your lessen and be a bit humble.

Anonymous said...

Bidayuh are known for a lot of things, HUMBLE, MEEKNESS, COURTESY, FRIENDLINESS, STUPID, ARROGANT, "bodek-ness" and a host of others. Some have more of these qualities and some less. For Dayaks to move forward, they should match themselves with other race or nationality....e.g the Japanese. I met a lot of Japaneses engineering before and roundly they are far from arrongant, bodekness, selfish and sob. A bank officer is only a worker with fix salary and a robot nad not an agent of change. TBS you are a agent of change for daring to speak in the name of justice and right. I doubt this banker do dare to speak like you do. HE should be ashame of himself. Hice car does not equal nice brain.

Anonymous said...

Bank officer? Ah, another bunch of low-lifes. Typical salarymen.

Unknown said...

Dear Readers,

Thank you for your responds and advices. I believe that good deeds do not need any penny.

Anonymous said...

That guy did it on purpose, you know? He knows you very well and took revenge on you by chance. See? You have criticised our YB, DBNA comm. members, PBB, UMNO,BGA comm. BN..name it. So, pay the price lah. Hehehe.., don't worry, akuna matata..be happy.

Anonymous said...

"You have criticised our YB, DBNA comm. members, PBB, UMNO,BGA comm. BN..name it. So, pay the price lah"
Taib gonna dead and gone very soon. So do for bunch of bollocks such as you. Good riddance.

Anonymous said...

I met a number of dying people and families of the departed(s). All the dying and the to be departed reget were they don't have the chance to use up their accumulated wealth. They know that later there will be fight over their accumulated wealth. And they died regretfully and unhappy (of course dead is something not happy) Then their were some who happily die. Why? This is because in their life time they help alot of people, whether financially, by their words and promises or by other means to helping people in need. A person is a person not by what the person can accumulate but by the comfort of the dead bed he/she is lying to meet the Creator. If the person died peacefully then he/she has acheive a "perfection".

Anonymous said...

"So do for bunch of bollocks such as you. Good riddance."
Why resort to personal attack and name calling? Short of better idea?

wafiUddin said...

Hello.

I was shocked upon reading your post here. I can't believe that there are Bidayuhs out there who behaved the way you've described in your encounter.

People should not be judged by what they have or how high their position is in the society, but by their character and more importantly what resides in their heart.

The incident you mentioned is a clear testament to how wealth, power and position can influence people's attitude towards other. Pray that God steer us clear of the treacherous deed of looking down on other people.